being yourself means people leave you

This one is going to be a little all over the place. I’m working out my style of writing and this is hard one to put in to words. I’m sure I will expand on it over time.

I think just today I have seen 4 or 5 quotes posted by inspirational social media pages based on being yourself and staying true to yourself. Be yourself and don’t apologize for it.

“ Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

– Bernard M. Maruch

But what do you do when you try to stay true to yourself but it drives people you love away? I’ll start with a for instance: You disagree with someone you love on something that has been bothering them. You simply offer up a different way of looking at the situation. Offer a different thought process and all of a sudden you aren’t being supportive, you’re not listening. This happens a few times, and before you know it, that person isn’t calling as much.

“ I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all.”

– Coco Chanel

But wait, I DO think about you. I care about you. I care about how you are. And I also care about what you think about me. Im harsh, and can be brutally honest, and I am well aware of the fact that that is not everyone’s cup of tea. But there are things about you that aren’t my favorite qualities. But I take them with all of my favorite things about you.

“ To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”

– E.E. Cummings

I struggle so much with thinking that people walk away from me because of my, at times, brutal honesty. I have a temper as well which is something I am working on. And hoping that the act of writing helps me deal with some of the things that make me angry. I try so much to change myself and the things I say to be like what someone else would say or do, and then have anxiety driven bad days when I think back on times I don’t like how I said something or how I acted.

I want to stay true to myself and be myself no matter what, but it drives the people I love away, so what is the happy medium?

I hope everyone has had a great day!

  • Mary Beth

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